Every day we encounter situations that require decisions. Some loom large, while others may seem completely miniscule or trivial. For instance, when driving, we decide whether to obey the traffic laws and signs or to run the red light. After all, the cars in the adjacent lanes are still moving and this will help regain the few minutes lost when leaving home late.
Or will it? It all depends on what’s ahead – pedestrian, officer or clear highway. And, as a unique and decisive individual, you know that it’s often not wise to let the crowd (everybody else) determine the decisions that you will make. Strive to make decisions that will serve you well, AND serve others well. Regardless of what the crowd is doing, make YOUR best decision confidently and with integrity.
Periodically, the mammoth decisions before us. These can indeed be life-changing. Do I take the job? Should I buy the house? Is this the person I should marry? Some basic processes can assist in nearly every situation.
First, be honest with yourself about the motivation to move ahead with the opportunity. Is it to impress someone else? Is it because someone else thinks you should take the step? Is it aligned with the plans and purpose of your life? Does it reflect your values and priorities?
Second, assess your willingness to meet the challenges associated with the decision. That is to say, many women look forward to a gloriously beautiful wedding, but have no willingness to become a wife who places her husband first among human relationships (yes, even before Mom). Or, some are ready for the financial payoffs that accompany a new job, but aren’t ready to take on the new responsibilities or the associated learning curve. In the case of buying a house, one may look forward to saying, “I’m a homeowner” but without the commitment to lawn maintenance or the myriad of other responsibilities that come with ownership.
Finally, look beyond the here and now to consider the financial, spiritual, mental, physical, and emotional outcomes of the decision. It is well worth your time to consider all possible pros and cons of your decision. Simply, don’t rush to a decision. Many have found (and I am among them) that if feeling pressured to make a quick decision, the best answer is usually NO. If the opportunity was truly intended for you, you will see it again.
The person that you are today is the composite of the decisions you made in all of your yesterdays.